So I work at a special education preschool.
My center has a problem of having strong clique vibes and gossiping about others. A teacher I worked under has been targeting me since I was added to her room back in February after she made another aide quit. I do not know what I did to make this woman hate me this much but she has been spreading malicious rumors about me behind my back to my coworkers, including the supervisor who she hates. The supervisor has not once talked to me about it either.
She constantly acts unprofessional. She has constantly gossiped about other coworkers behind their back including the supervisor in the classroom in front of the kids. She has also openly said mean things about the kids parents like calling a girl’s mom “ugly” and another “poor” in front of the kids. She shittalks another teacher constantly and says none of the other classes “do anything” compared to her class. She has targeted me for making mistakes and told me not to ask her nor my other coworkers for help. She left the aides in her room in the dark about her telling me not to ask for help… Well, this lead to an entire campaign about asking for help around the school since her head aide told the supervisor about me not asking for help. She then did a heel face turn when people started telling me to ask for help and the supervisor even held a meeting to say to ask for help where it was obvious jabs at me the entire time. She threw me under the bus completely as if she never told me that me asking for help creates more work for her and other staff.
Then the micro-aggressions continued. She constantly made side remarks about how me being there creates more work for her and the other aide who is being “expected” to “do everything.” She had a habit of snapping at me openly when mad at the supervisor teacher for taking her staff to work in her (the supervisor’s) room. She would also shittalk the supervisor openly. Recently she had snapped at me so badly I cried in the bathroom then she twisted it as me being “upset” at her as gossip fodder.
She also interrogated me with overly personal questions after blowing up on me in front of the kids for not properly “reprimanding” kids who were stealing hand sanitizer. She accused me of rolling my eyes at her when I was simply blinking back tears then told me I need to grow a “thicker skin.” She had asked me questions like “are you stressed?”, asked me what’s going on outside of work, etc. Then said not to bring my personal problems into work after forcing me to tell her what is going on outside of work where I had lied to her to get her to stop hounding me.
She created an entire narrative behind my back that I am “oversensitive,” take things “too personally”, don’t ask for help, and bring my “personal problems” to work.
I was recently removed from her room after I had failed to calm down a student again, I had tried to calm her down by offering her snacks while the student was screaming at me and the other aide, kicking me, hitting me, and spitting on me. Because I had told the student that her screaming could scare her classmates and ruin lunch for her and her classmates while also trying to console her and offer her snacks, I got removed from her room. Her and her aides then started to purposely ignore me and started gossiping about me loudly in the shared bathroom between classrooms. They even said they’re going to “report” me.
I am not sure what to do anymore. I don’t feel welcomed nor supported at my center anymore. I tried to quit a month ago but withdrew it.