For those who grew up with well-off or rich parents in Singapore, when did you first realise your family was wealthier or more privileged than most?
Was there a specific moment growing up when you realised that things you thought were completely normal weren’t actually the norm for most Singaporeans?
Matched with this girl on Hinge and she casually tells me she’s currently talking/dating to 10 guys and that I’m apparently number 10 on the list.
Then I asked when she was free to meet and she basically said her weekends are fully booked for the next 4 weeks because she already has dates lined up. At that point I genuinely felt like I was trying to book an appointment at a specialist clinic or something rather than asking someone out.
I know dating apps means endless options and nobody owes you exclusivity before you’ve even met, but is the competition actually this insane now? Like are guys on Hinge basically competing against 5–10 other dudes at any given time?
For people actively dating in SG, is this normal? How many people are you usually talking to / dating simultaneously?
I’ve noticed quite a few SG guys around me either dating women from overseas, or swearing to never date a local because "foreign women are just better". Whenever this topic comes up there seem to be two very different explanations.
Some say they genuinely find foreign women more compatible because of differences in personality, more submissive and less lofty expectations. Others say it’s because dating in Singapore is too competitive such that they can't measure up to local women standards, so they find that they connect better or get more opportunities when meeting people overseas, especially when they are seen as more "desirable" due to a higher salary and "better" nationality.
Obviously every relationship is different and I don’t think it’s fair to generalise either SG women or foreign women. But I’m curious whether people who have dated both actually notice a meaningful difference.
For SG guys who are dating foreigners or know people who are dating foreigners: was it something you actively preferred, or did it just happen naturally?
And for everyone else: do you think this trend is mostly about compatibility and preference, or does the difficulty of the local dating scene play a bigger role than people admit?
I’m a guy in my mid-20s who recently graduated. I’m fairly average in terms of looks, height and other aspects, and I haven’t had much luck dating, including on apps.
I already have a decent social life, stay fit and am comfortable talking to people, so I’m considering stepping back from dating for a few years to focus on building my career and increasing my income. I currently have a full-time job earning around the average fresh-graduate salary, and I’ve set myself a goal of reaching a six-figure annual income by 30.
I know earning more cannot make up for a bad personality or poor communication. But for men in their late 20s, 30s and beyond, did earning more and progressing in your career genuinely improve your dating experience whether through greater confidence, independence or being viewed as a more serious long-term partner?
Would be interested to hear your experiences.
Hi everyone,
I recently caught up with several people from my university cohort whom I had not spoken to since we graduated last year. Quite a few of them are now working in ministries or statutory boards.
When I asked whether their roles were permanent or contract-based, most gave similar answers: “It’s a two-year contract, but will convert after one-year" or “It's a one-year contract but it renews every year". All of them speak as though their jobs are BASICALLY guaranteed/permanent after X years.
How reliable are these assurances in practice? I have also come across stories of civil service employees whose contracts were not renewed, so I am wondering whether renewal or conversion is generally expected, or whether people are being overly optimistic about their job security. Could it also be they are simply coping or being lied to by HR?
Thanks.
Hi guys, recently went for an interview with a somewhat reputable MNC that left a sour taste in my mouth:
Throughout the interview, the interviewer kept probing and questioning how "committed" I am to the company. He repeatedly mentioned that they want individuals who "are not the type to leave after a few years" because they will "pour resources to developing talent" so as not to let these resources go to waste. Moreover, he mentioned that he and the firm "expects alot" from the new hires, and how he will "throw you into the deep end and expect you to rise to the occasion and swim". Lastly, he asked me how I can "prove to him" that I am that dedicated and committed individual that the company is looking for.
Is this a red flag or is this a normal part of recruitment today, given the amount of job hoppers from Gen Zs?
Feel free to share your stories as well and how they turned out. Thanks!
25M FCH Engineering grad from a local big 3 uni here. I recently received job offers from both DSTA and DSO as an Engineer. Both organisations pay very well (6-7k) range but I also know that since Im a farmer I wont be promoted so quickly. Im aware that DSTA is more PM while DSO is more technical.