Father doesn’t approve
Hello I’m a 18 year old female and I have my MEPS set up for me 4 days from now. I already took my ASVAB to enter the army and scored pretty well (GT 113 and ST 108). I’ve been attending a community college and have been setting myself up to graduate early, hopefully by September/october time, I still have to meet with my counselor. However, the only person I’ve told my plans to is my mom because my dad went absolutely ballistic whenever I even slightly bring up the idea of me considering the army. He was in the Air Force for years and is convinced I should only do Air Force or that he will cut me off and take away my car which I pay, but is under his name since I had got it when I was underage. He’s been out of the Air Force since before I’ve been born, he is now 65 and joined when he was 18. He says I’m going to die in the army, lose money, and a whole bunch of other stuff. He is also convinced I’m not cut out for any of it. That I have to follow his plan of doing my bachelors degree and only doing Air Force reserves (my major is ultrasound right now but I’m hoping to do radiology or some other medical MOS in the army so I don’t necessarily need a bachelors degree). Sure I might not be the strongest person alive or super tall and yes my room gets messy sometimes, but isn’t bettering myself and correcting those bad habits a reason to join. I talked to my recruiter about everything my dad had been saying, and he eased my anxiety talking about how different the army is from the time my dad had served and how it’s possible for me to do good. My recruiter also told me to talk to the Air Force recruiters, I went over there and the atmosphere was completely different, the recruiters seemed to not even really want to talk and basically told me to go army in a subtle way. I also have many friends that have enlisted and seem to be having an amazing time, though I know everyones experience can differ. I understand the military, much more the army isn’t going to be easy and it’s something I really reality want to experience and do for myself. I plan on signing my contract soon and I don’t know how to tell my dad. I know he will kick me out and take away whatever I have. On a side note, I’ve never been close to him, he recently moved back in “full-time” with us after having been moving around for years for work. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know how to tell him.
Any ideas? Sorry if if I’m just rambling and don’t make sense I’m just stressing out!