Can your “sensitive” partner handle kid meltdowns?
I have an almost one-year old and four-year old. There are many times where they’re both melting down — usually when trying to get ready for daycare or bedtime. It’s stressful, but I feel like I can lock in and be there to help them regulate. My husband on the other hand has literally fled from the room and gone into his room and closed the door on multiple occasions. This morning as they were melting down he yells to me that he can’t handle it when they’re both crying.
What I’m wondering is how much of this is “normal” for partners who are more sensitive, and how much of this might be bc he’s a recovering alcoholic and on adderall?
On one hand it’s really frustrating bc I’m left to handle two kids melting down alone, and on the other hand if he needs a break bc he’s getting triggered, then he needs a break. I guess I’m just really suspicious of his stimulant use and if that plays into it.