AITA for Limiting Communication with My Husband’s Sister?
I (30F) have been married to my husband (34M) for five years. We’ve known each other for over 12 years and dated for 10. My husband has three siblings: Brother X, Sister Y, and Sister Z. While X and Y have a close relationship, my husband and Sister Z barely communicate.
A bit of backstory: My husband and Sister Z had a falling out years ago, which stemmed from her selfish behavior. During a difficult time when my husband was seriously ill, Sister Z didn’t reach out at all, while X and Y were there for him. For two years, they didn’t speak.
In 2021, we got married, and shortly after, my husband’s father passed away. During this time, we faced multiple miscarriages while Sister Z was trying for her fourth child. All of my husband’s siblings have children aged over 10, while my husband and I do not have any kids, which adds to the emotional strain.
After some time, we got an opportunity to work abroad and decided to keep it private from the family until two weeks before our departure. Coincidentally, that was when Sister Z had just given birth, and neither my husband nor I have met her child yet.
Before my husband left, he arranged a farewell gathering with X and Y, and Sister Z showed up uninvited. Since moving abroad, we’ve been back home for holidays, and my husband’s brother’s wife keeps pushing us to fix our relationship with Sister Z.
I’ve tried for two years to reach out, but it always feels one-sided. Sister Z often plays the victim, and her family seems very materialistic, which makes interactions feel forced.
So, I’m stuck wondering if I’m in the wrong for wanting to limit communication with her. Is it bad to prioritize my mental health and recognize that this relationship feels one-sided?
AITA?