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Alan Watts (AW):
Well now, Caroline, I suppose the first thing to notice is that most people arrive at spirituality as if it were a kind of self-improvement project—like polishing the ego until it shines more brightly.
Caroline Myss (CM):
And I’d say that’s exactly where they get into trouble. Because the ego isn’t meant to be polished—it’s meant to be seen through. People come to me wanting healing, but what they’re really asking is how to avoid responsibility for their choices.
AW:
Ah! Responsibility—yes. Though I might phrase it differently. I’d say we’re all playing roles in a grand drama, but we’ve forgotten we’re actors. So we clutch our suffering as if it were absolute, rather than… a performance we’re deeply invested in.
CM:
But Alan, people’s wounds are not just performances. Trauma imprints the body, the psyche, the energy system. You can’t just laugh it off as a cosmic play and expect transformation.
AW:
Oh, quite. I’m not suggesting dismissal. Only that there’s a peculiar freedom in realizing that what we call the “self” who is wounded is itself a kind of pattern—a story the universe is telling.
CM:
And yet, that story carries consequences. If you betray yourself repeatedly, your body will speak. Your life will contract. You can’t bypass that by philosophizing about illusion.
AW:
Yes, yes—spiritual bypassing, as it’s now called. Quite fashionable. People use the idea that “it’s all one” as a way of avoiding the messiness of being human.
CM:
Exactly. Real power comes from engaging that mess—owning your shadow, your motives, your addictions to suffering. People stay sick because they’re loyal to their wounds.
AW:
That’s fascinating—loyal to their wounds. I might say they’re attached to their identity as a “someone.” Because if you let go of your suffering, you may also have to let go of who you think you are.
CM:
And that terrifies people. Because they’ve built entire lives around those identities. Victim, rescuer, controller—these archetypal roles feel safer than the unknown.
AW:
Yes, the unknown! Which is, of course, what we are. The universe isn’t a thing with a plan—it’s an ongoing happening. And we are that happening, not observers of it.
CM:
I agree—but people need structure to navigate that. Archetypes, for instance, help us see the patterns we’re unconsciously living out. Without that awareness, “flowing with the universe” just becomes another excuse to drift.
AW:
Quite right. One mustn’t confuse going with the flow with simply going along. There’s a difference between surrender and passivity.
CM:
Surrender requires strength. It means releasing control after you’ve done the inner work—not before. Otherwise, it’s just avoidance dressed up as wisdom.
AW:
You know, it’s amusing—people often think enlightenment is a kind of permanent bliss. But it’s really more like seeing through the game while still playing it fully.
CM:
And playing it with integrity. That’s what’s missing. People want transcendence without accountability. But your soul doesn’t evolve through escape—it evolves through choice.
AW:
So perhaps we could say: the dance is both illusion and responsibility. You are not the dancer—and yet, you must dance well.
CM:
That’s actually quite perfect. Because whether or not the self is ultimately an illusion, your choices within this experience are real enough to shape your life—and your soul.
AW (laughing softly):
A marvelous paradox. You are both the wave and the ocean, and somehow still responsible for how you splash.
CM (smiling):
And whether you keep making the same splash over and over again.
AW:
Ah, repetition—the universe trying to get your attention.
CM:
Or your soul asking you to finally grow up.