Workplace: A school
Recently I've had a fallout with my workplace narcissist.
I've been walking on eggshells for the past year after spotting her as a narcissist.
She has been constantly criticising me, how I speak, work and of course taking everything out of context for her benefit. A month ago I asked for a meeting in our department and described my understanding of reality because I couldn’t listen to the gaslighting any more. That also had to do with huge amount of work I did that was her responsibility but I ended up doing because I didn’t know better as a newbie :/
The meeting I initiated was a big mistake!
She informed our supervisors, told her side of the story where of course I'm the hostile crazy, she's a victim and we were called in to a 'crisis meeting'.
That meeting was interesting - as it of course it constantly revolved around her feelings, but my supervisors ended up explaining human communications to her as to a 5 year old so I really hope they got a picture of the dynamics.
The meeting ended with everyone promising to start anew, trying to leave the past behind us....
I'm wondering what to do now. I know I can't speak to her as a normal person but I have to work with her. I had this idea whether I should try a different method and suck up to her? Compliment her, tell here I would love for us to have a fresh start as she is such a great coworker...
Has anyone done that with a good outcome? Acting out a role like that...?
The only reason I'm willing to try is that this is a nice, well paid job which I want to hold in to for a little longer.
Would love to hear from someone who's tried.....