First time writing here but I feel this is the best place to ask for advice.
I F (24) have a sister let’s call her Madison (35) (don’t want to dox her). Madison and I are actually half sisters with my mum being a single parent at 20. She was raised with my maternal grandparents and mum until my mum married my dad who had 2 daughters from his first marriage.
All I can say is that neither her not my dad like eachother and there’s lots of beef there (verbal abuse etc). She never settled here and left home at 16 dropping out of school. She had her first child at 19/20 and has 5 in total now. Her husband of 9 years is useless. He doesn’t want to work and my sister has been out of work since having last 2 wee ones. I think she misses work and she does alot for her children. The husband has been mentally draining her and I think is part of the reason she developed addiction.
From my perspective- my sister has always been unstable. I remember as a child mum was always running after her for one thing or the other but things were nowhere near as bad now. My sister over the last 2 years has been addicted to alcohol and these binges lead her to take Cocaine. The latest incident resulted in her assaulting her husband and being arrested. She is living with my aunt at the moment as she can’t come home to my parents as she hates my dad. As a result of the assault she is out on bail and is not allowed alcohol nor unsupervised contact with the children.
Everything seemed to be turning a corner and my sister got referred to the addiction services in the trust and she had her first meeting. (She also has been going to counselling). It turns out my sister has been experiencing domestic violence from her partner for years and kept it a secret. I feel so angry towards her husband because I think he has completely drained her over the years and ultimately ruined her life/thrown her into a downward spiral.
Unfortunately, this weekend my sister slipped out of my aunt’s house and went drinking with her cousin. This was bad enough but I found out she drained her and her husband’s bank account- there is no money left.
I feel angry because she was getting better and I’m also annoyed for her. I think she should have been committed into bluestone as she has already had 2 suicide attempts this year but apparently she wasn’t ill enough to be admitted. I don’t know how to help my sister, where can she go in Northern Ireland to get help? What can I do to help her?
I’m sorry if this is triggering to read or if it seems a bit all over the place, it’s hard to write it all down. Ultimately my sister seriously needs help before she is arrested for good or ends up dead.