New Housemates
Hi All,
Just looking for the best way to approach this situation as I don’t want to upset anyone, including myself. Sorry for the long post, just thought context would help.
I (29F) have lived in an apartment with 2 house mates for nearly two years and this summer one of them moved on to Canada and the other moved in with a friend to be closer to the city (the apartments we live in are quite far from Dublin City and we all commiserated at how that made us less social over time).
They both replaced themselves on the lease, I am looking to move closer to work myself but it’s just taken longer than expected because of the time of the year.
The first new housemate (25M) moved in start of July and the second (32F) moved in start of August.
The first housemate, we’ll call him C, is house sharing for the first time. The first couple of days after moving in, he brought 10 people into the h apartment living room. He was made aware by one of the previous tenant that having 10 people in the house is a not really a possibility and was encouraged to use social spaces for social gatherings.
He uses my things ( I said he could use the kettle and toaster, for context the apartment was not equipped with appliances or dishes when I moved in and I had to purchase everything myself. He was told this and said he would buy his own things. One of my previous housemates broke my nespresso and C has already broken some of my glasses and my pressing iron so I am inclined to ask him to stop using everything except the kettle and the toaster, just as a one point lesson for myself), he has knocked on my door on a bank holiday Monday night at 12:30am (don’t want to be dramatic and say Tuesday morning) asking if he could bring 3 friends in for “30mins” (woke me up, couldn’t sleep until 4am, had to swap shifts in work).
He has brought lady friends over multiple times during the week. First time I walked out of my room into the living room and the girl was just laying on the sofa. He was asked previously to send a message into the group chat if he was planning on having guests over. Works from home sometimes even though it was never discussed and has lady friends over during the day on those occasions. The other housemate texted me this week and told me he kept her up with sex noises all night ( they share a wall) and she also noticed he didn’t clean the apartment and asked if it was still her turn this week given he has not cleaned last week.
He was told we alternate with cleans every week to keep the apartment in good condition and he said himself how important cleanliness is for him. First time his clean was due I even helped to show what usually is done ( he broke my previous housemates vacuum cleaner in the process, unsure whether he told him about it or not). His turn has come since and he has not done the clean or acknowledged it to say he’d do it next week and leaves the sink, counters and floor covered in food when he is done cooking. He was boiling an egg and let it overcook until it exploded and went everywhere. The house smelled like death for 2 days and I couldn’t figure out why (he only told days after) and I was sweeping and found parts of the egg today.
He typically likes to cook between 23:00 and 01:00 which makes it impossible for me to fall or stay asleep, as the walls are paper thin.
What is the best way of going about this all?
I have house shared with people for many years, but I don’t think I have ever had this many talking points… he seems to get upset/annoyed when something is pointed out, my guess is because he doesn’t understand how he is interfering with our peaceful enjoyment of the living facilities.
I want to help improve the situation somehow, how do I go about it?