Being uncomfortable about a dominant male partner
21F, I’m the eldest daughter with an absent father, I’ve always been the “second mom” to my younger sisters and I’m getting back into the dating world
I’m speaking to this guy who dirty talks to me in a very dominant way, and I like being submissive sometimes because it means it’s the one thing I don’t have to be in charge of but when he’s “too” dominant I get very cautious and feel “on alert” if something bad might happen when we’re doing stuff together
It could be just sexual preference for him or something but I sometimes I get the sudden urge to ask him if he’s going to hurt me and if he could be gentle with me
On the other hand, I LOVE being dominant or in charge because it makes me feel like things are at my control and I get to call the shots or set boundaries
Just wondering about the psychology behind this and genuinely want to understand this