u/Former_Juggernaut789

My household consists of my 4 year old. My 9 year old step child and my girlfriend. I am 36 year old small business owner and she is a high school teacher. We have a little girl who lives next door who’s almost 9. Her and my step child and my 4 year old are simply inseparable. The 9 neighbor girl is a very good kid. Kind, well behaved, polite, says please and thank you. Amazing with my 4 year old. However, they are simply not the cleanest people. That is okay with us if they are not, It’s not our business. With that being said that uncleanliness is starting to appear to us like child neglect. The neighbor girl is always dirty. We only saw her in one set of clothes all summer long. She is at the age where she has body odor. She seems to be hungry more and more when she comes over. She is currently not allowed in our house because she came over for a sleep over with a lice cap on. We asked her if she had lice which she said she did but her parents just told her to put a lice cap on. I reached out to the father via text and asked him why the hell he would do that and his response was something to the effect of “that wasn’t his department, she may have it but he didn’t really know.” Me and my girlfriend are pretty torn up about it and not sure what to do. I do maintain a mutually respectful relationship with the parents who live 159!feet away. Calling cps is a last resort. I do not think they would get involved due to the state we live in as long as there is a roof over her head and something in the fridge. We’ve bought her clothes but they are just never washed and eventually seem to disappear. We are looking for some advice on how to handle this gently but effectively.

Let me start by saying I am not religious or spiritual. I am not one who personally ever remembers my dreams and neither is my ex. We parted ways a few months ago and have been no contact for a decent amount of time also. A few days ago I had a very odd dream. She came into my room and in her soft sweet voice she told me it was time to get up. I immediately grabbed her and threw her on the bed and wrapped her up like I had never done before. I think we had both made peace with the situation and been doing our best to move on. Since then I have had N overwhelming need to reach out to her and see how she’s doing. Keep in mind she had not been on my mind at all in a while prior to that. I texted her this morning and told her this was going to be hard to explain but I had a very vivid dream about her and she’s been on my mind since. The reply back was something along the lines of she had had almost the exact same dream on the exact same day at the same time. (Sunday afternoon, we both like to take naps). We are both pretty content in our current situations but are extremely puzzled by this. I don’t know much about dreams and have not had a dream I can remember since I was a little boy pretty much. Just curious if there’s anything this could mean coming from somebody who knows about dreams and what they mean and how to interpret them?