u/Free-Variation3454

Am I Overeacting?

Guys, I went to Uni, dropped out and couldnt go back but started working. Most of my former classmates I bump into them one way or another and they look grown and advanced in the best of ways.

I am usually okay with myself and ofcourse am making plans to go to work but whenever I see them I get so overwhelmed with so much shame and embarassament of the thought of what I couldve become had I stayed in school and been a better student despite the fact that I have a fairly decent job and have a living, no kids etc. I dont know, as it is with everyone I dont feel satisfied with myself and I feel like its a big mental block because academic level is such a status, social class and economic level and because I know it, the worst feeling of inferiority just envelopes me BUT it is specifically if I bump into former classmates. WTH do I do??

The more I dwell on this issue the more I find myself making rash decisions that hurt me further. I can never talk to my family about this issue because I am already classified and compared to other siblings or cousins who have accomplished whatever and so now I find myself tied down by my own doing (not doing well in school), mental perspectives and the views of other people towards me.

What the hell am I supposed to do and how do I move forward? It's been years and this thing still hurts really deeply and I rarely talk about it.

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u/Free-Variation3454 — 1 day ago

Reflections

If you are in your 30's and probably spent most of yoir kife living in Botswana. What advises would you give to an 18year old who just got "freedom" and headed to uni?

The advice can be about relationships( romantic, family, friendships, professional) or financial (income management, investments, pension or retirement planning) or emotional etc any advise tota that is constructive that you have learnt innyour life. It could be from personal experience or what you saw from other people.

Let's keep it open minded as well. Its should also be gender neutral advise.

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u/Free-Variation3454 — 12 days ago

Kgang ya go re ke theogetse after di relay ya mbora! Tota ke e chestile, go riana holiday e nna leng?

Puso ya UDC ha e na bojammogo. Ha nne ele sissyboy nkane re sa botsa. mxm!

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u/Free-Variation3454 — 18 days ago