23 [M4F] #Online / Copenhagen — Clingy guy with his share of baggage looking for the one
Okay. I'll keep this honest because I'm bad at pretending I'm normal.
Quick disclaimer: I'm not here to debate or justify anything I've written. If something rubs you the wrong way, just move on — no hard feelings.
Would your ex describe you as "a lot"? Do you find most people exhausting? Would your honest opinions get you quietly uninvited from things? Then keep reading.
Who am i looking for?
- To be clear upfront — I'm looking for something real and long-term. I'm not interested in doing the casual "let's just see where it goes" dance. LDR is completely fine by me, distance doesn't scare me.
- Personality traits I genuinely admire: directness, self-awareness, the ability to have an actual opinion and defend it, a dark or dry sense of humour, someone who takes things seriously when it matters. Bonus if you're a little pessimistic — I find blind optimism exhausting.
- I take my own future seriously. I have goals, directions I'm actively working toward, and I think a lot about where I want to end up — not in a boring "five year plan" kind of way, more in a "I'm not willing to just drift through life" kind of way. I'd really love someone who has that same quiet ambition, or at least genuinely respects it. Someone who has something they're building, even if it's still early days.
- If your idea of a perfect evening is staying in, getting deep into something you're obsessed with, and ignoring the outside world — we're already compatible.
- If you've ever felt invisible in a group and wondered why nobody noticed — I'd notice. I'd come find you.
- Bonus: if you carry some baggage. BPD, anxiety, social anxiety, OCD, autism, trust issues, attachment issues, insomnia, a complicated past — I'm not scared of any of that. I'd rather someone real and complicated than someone easy and hollow.
- Bonus points: if your friend group is small (or basically nonexistent) and you're okay with that.
- Extra bonus points: if you get overstimulated in loud or crowded places and would rather disappear than push through.
- Extra extra bonus points: if you love talking at length about whatever you're into but go completely quiet around people you don't trust yet.
- Interests/hobbies I'd love to have in common
Gaming (I'm big on it, ZZZ, HSR, Wuthering Waves and more), dark fantasy, history (especially the obscure and dark corners of it), mythology, anime/manga, IT and tech, philosophy, and finding out things most people don't know or don't want to know.
- No preference on nationality, background or religion — just be someone who thinks, feels, and isn't cruel about it.
- One important note: I don't open up quickly, but when I do attach, I attach hard. So if I'm being a bit guarded early on, it doesn't mean I'm not invested — it means I'm paying close attention.
What you get:
- Fast replies. I'm almost always around, and if I'm not, I'll tell you.
- I will remember things about you. Small things. Things you said once and forgot you said.
- Anything most people would find weird or "too much," I'm probably into — so you won't have to tone yourself down.
- I will genuinely care about your day, your interests, your goals, what's stressing you out. Not performatively — actually.
- If we've got a big timezone gap and you feel like venting into the void at 2am — my DMs are the void. I'll read it all in the morning and it'll make my day.
- I will absolutely hype you up or drag you back to focus depending on what you need. I can be both.
- Full cover story availability. Can't make it somewhere? I exist. We can build very convincing alibis together.
- You'll have my full attention. Not divided, not occasional — full.
What I get:
- Hopefully the same things, give or take.
- Someone who won't make me feel like a burden for caring too much.
- Someone who doesn't make me feel weird for caring about where I'm going — and maybe someone to actually talk about it with.
- Probably someone to ramble at about gaming or history for way too long.🥀
I won't overshare here, but if any of this sounds like you, reach out. I'm an open book once I trust you — happy to talk about interests, goals, values, dealbreakers, all of it. I want to know the same from you.
I'm probably not the smoothest or most immediately impressive person to talk to. But I show up, I care too much, and I don't disappear. That has to count for something.
If you made it this far — thank you. I hope things are going okay for you.🥀