How to deal with reverse bullying
I have raised concerns about questionable work that a senior leader has been asking me to perform.
This senior leader invited me to a one-on-one meeting and asked me to carry out this work. I tried to distance myself from the situation by explaining that I was busy with other work.
This person later invited me to another one-on-one meeting and accused me of having performance issues, as well as having a personal issue with them because of their gender. They also made several other accusations. I became uncomfortable during the call and ended the call before it could continue.
I am male and this person is female.
This person is not my direct manager. I emailed the claims this person made to my manager, explaining that I was not comfortable having one-on-one conversations with this person.
Following this, my manager removed me from all of the projects I had been working on, some of which barely involved any interaction with this person. I have been reallocated to new projects.
The concerns around the questionable work were never acknowledged by my manager when I had a conversation with him. I did not put them in an email because I was worried it may escalate the situation a lot further.
I may have also made the mistake of not writing the email properly, as I was very emotional, and my manager may see it as a threat that I will escalate the issue even further.
He also asked me to hand over my work to other people on the team, who subsequently presented the work to the rest of the team as their own.
My performance could not be questioned because only a few days earlier, two people had provided me with written feedback praising my work on same project
I am now concerned that my manager may target me because he works closely with the senior leader I raised the concerns about. I am also concerned that he may not provide me with a fair reference if I try to move to another role.
I feel stuck and suffocated in my current situation, and I want to move away from this role.
The senior leader has made accusations relating to gender against me without any proof or basis.
What options do I have to move away from this role? What can I do if I believe my manager may try to damage my reputation or provide an unfair reference? Could I have done anything differently?