Am I being catfished?
I honestly need outside opinions because I can’t tell if I’m overthinking or if I’m actually being catfished or manipulated.
I’ve been talking to this guy for around 6 months now. We first met in a game, then eventually moved to Discord and started talking every day, consistently. He’s honestly one of the sweetest guys I’ve ever talked to, which is probably why I got attached so deeply.
From the beginning, he was very intense emotionally. He’d talk about our future together, meeting in person someday, doing trips together, spending time together irl, and all these cute relationship things. He’d reassure me constantly, act very affectionate, and make me feel really special. My friends keep telling me this sounds like love bombing, but at the time it just felt genuine because he was so consistent and caring.
But there are things that don’t add up.
He says he’s 25, but his voice sounds much older to me. Not just “mature,” but genuinely older. I tried not to judge because voices can vary, but it stayed in the back of my mind.
The biggest issue is that in 6 MONTHS, he has never properly sent me a selfie. Ever. There’s always some excuse like he doesn’t like taking pictures, busy, “later,” etc. We’ve been emotionally involved for months and I still don’t even know what he genuinely looks like currently.
Another thing is he always seem to talk to a lot of girls, secretly, ig. At first I ignored it because I didn’t want to sound insecure or controlling, but lately my gut has been screaming that something is off. Sometimes it feels like he says the same sweet things to multiple girls.
And recently, he suddenly “broke up” with me and said we should just stay casual. That already hurt a lot because of how serious and future-oriented he used to act. But then I found out he’s already flirting with another girl.
Now I’m sitting here wondering if any of it was even real.
Was I just another girl he entertained online? Was the future talk fake? Am I being paranoid or does this genuinely sound suspicious/catfish-y to other people too?
I genuinely cared about him, which is why this hurts so much.