Do all/most Catholic parishes require couples to plan on having kids for marriage?
I'm agnostic and my wife is Catholic (leans more progressive as she supports LGBTQ and other progressive values). Something we agreed upon before marriage was that we didn't want kids for a while (if at all) and would re-evaluate that after a few years. We had a civil wedding due not being close to friends/family yet as we were moving across country. Now we're trying to have a Catholic wedding as my wife would love to have a church wedding and have our married recognized by the church. We're going through the process and the deacon start probing us on what are plans are for children and if we're taking contraceptives. They then tell us this is a mortal sin and married couples are supposed to unprotected sex and if kids happen, they happen. This took both me and my wife by surprise (I'm not well versed in Catholicism and my wife didn't know about this portion of Catholicism).
Is it all parishes that are like this? Specifically the portion of being invasive (in my opinion) into private matters and if you plan to have kids?
I'm trying to support my wife and here wishes of having a church wedding but now the church doesn't seem to want to do it because of the above. One of the ministers wants to have a discussion with our regarding having children.