My boss has cancer and it's weird.
My boss was diagnosed with a late stage men's cancer at some point early in my tenure at my new job. I just passed one year and this became known to me about 5 months ago. He's a bit younger than me, probably in his early 40s.
I don't know his prognosis or how his treatment is going. Sometimes he shows up to things, sometimes not. He kind of dips in and out and I'm never really sure what's going on with him. He doesn't (and never really has) shared about his personal life with me.
We're a two person team and my role is brand new. There's A LOT going on and I've hit the ground running but I kind of feel like I'm drowning much of the time? I'm doing roughly half his job in addition to mine. He's just very inconsistent and I definitely feel like most everyone in our workplace has caught on by now that I'm the one to go to to get things done. He's definitely always been sort of like this but obviously with everything he's dealing with it's not improved. If he has a half time or part time arrangement worked out I don't know about it.
It's review season and I've been asked to give him peer feedback (which i already don't like because I'm not his peer, he's my boss!) Anyway. What level of honesty should I be working with here? I feel really bad about his situation and I don't want to trash the guy or jeopardize his employment or his health insurance (in the u.s., ugh). It seems like his bosses are either unaware of all this, indifferent, or maybe waiting to see how things go for him? But he's a very ineffective manager and I've had no communication at all about what might be happening down the line. I'm not really willing to keep doing most of his job and mine indefinitely for the same pay, which is on the low end of the range.