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Literally walked to the crosswalk and stopped. Looked both ways, one side was clear and the other side the car had stoped for me. As such, I started walking across the road in crosswalk. Then here comes a car flying down the other way and nearly hits me. I shake my head at the car and the elderly driver yells at me for “walking in the road”. M’AM THIS IS A CROSSWALK. THERE IS MARKINGS ON THE ROAD AND A YELLOW CROSSWALK SIGN UP. YOU ARE IN A RESIDENTIAL AREA!!!! Don’t be speeding and flying down the streets and then get big mad when someone is in the crosswalk!!!!!! I understand being distracted and making accidents or having reduced visibility in weather conditions with crosswalk areas etc, but the fact that you are mad me for using the crosswalk is INSANE!!!!! Literally drivers here have gotten so nuts and I know this is just one example, but I feel like the anger of people on the road is scary for drivers and pedestrians alike.

Edit: Just to be clear, I think the general suckiness of drivers is distributed fairly amongst all age ranges. I’m more ticked that someone yelled at me for using the crosswalk after almost hitting me :/. Like the ego and narcissism of others on the road is willlddddd.

**TLDR: How long is normal to take FMLA for caregiving and spending time with my dad (62)? Will this leave affect the perception of me from my employer?

Hi all,

I am looking for advice on use of my FMLA. My dad was diagnosed with gbm last November. Since mid-May, he has declined heavily. He is very confused, his physical mobility is greatly reduced, he struggles to form sentences / thoughts, and he sleeps most of the day. He is also very depressed and had made a lot of remarks about his end of life approaching. Based on these symptoms, I am worried that he may only have a couple of months left.

I work in a state in which I qualify for 12 weeks paid FMLA. To note, my dad and I live 20+ hours away - so I cannot just visit on the weekends. Given decline and concern about caregiving needs and wanting to be there with him at the end, I am wanting to / interested in using my paid FMLA. However, how typical is it to use FMLA to care for a parent? And how much time is normally taken / do employers not get mad at?

For context on my job, I work in a position in which my role would not be covered / my job tasks would not be covered while on leave, and the documentation / paperwork required of me would be counted as late if it came due during the period of my leave. I am 24 and was hoping to apply to grad school this fall. However, I am worried that this leave will cause a poor quarterly audit and, as such, for me to look bad in the eyes of my employer and affect my chances of grad school.

That being stated, given the context of my job and future plans, I am asking for advice on use of FMLA: How long is normal to take FMLA for in the situation? Will this leave affect the perception of me from my employers?

Any advice is appreciated! Overall, very overwhelmed.