Husband won’t let me get a motorcycle
For background we are 26 F 26 M, married 2.5 years, are financially stable with good jobs and have no children.
When I originally brought up the idea of getting a bike to my husband he said he wasn’t a fan of it and thought they were dangerous but wouldn’t tell me I can or can’t do something. So I do some more research, start talking to friends and relatives who ride, start buying all the best quality gear I can afford and sign up for the MSF course with a friend to have someone to learn with. I go to a dealership to see how I fit on different bikes and once I found a cruiser I liked I started doing more research on them online.
He sees I’m getting more serious about buying the bike and now it’s a big problem. He tells me that he doesn’t support it and would be upset with me if I did get a bike. He’s giving me statistics on death rate and crashes (I’m an ER nurse so I am very aware of what a crash can do to someone and don’t think I’m any more immune to danger than someone else) and is voicing his very valid concern that I’m going to die on the bike.
I try to reassure him that I’m a very observant and careful driver, I signed up for the safety course, I’m getting all the best gear, and I’m doing everything I can to minimize putting myself into danger.
It no longer seems like the decision to get a bike is actually a choice. I ask if there’s a way we can compromise or anything we can do to make him comfortable with the idea (such as he takes the MSF course with me, I wear ATGATT, don’t ride in the dark, don’t ride if it’s going to rain and so on) he said that’s like saying I want to do IV drugs but will compromise and use clean needles.. He said I can still take the MSF class because I already spent a lot of money to reserve my seat, but that’s as far as I can go. He’s made up his mind and there’s no way he’s going to budge on the bike.
I would really like advice on my situation. Should I just give up on the dream? I don’t want to get it behind his back and seem sneaky, but I also don’t want to hold resentment towards him for not letting me make my own choice.
Edit: some of yall are some pretty silly geese. I didn’t say because I’m a safe driver I’m immune to other people’s actions. I only added that because it would be additionally concerning if I were known to text and drive/speed/get into fender benders.