we’ve already been dating for years. having sex and living together. we’re now new believers. not married. do we stop?
it’s a lot but i’m female, 33, sober 5 months and saved 3 months. i’m very disciplined and motivated in my relationship with the Lord. i’ve always been a very 0-100 person. hence how i ended up an alcoholic probably 😂
my boyfriend and i have dated off and on since we were kids. but we’ve been consistently together, living together etc 2 years now.
he had a hard time, kept getting caught betraying me with drugs and we split.
he’s watched my journey and was inspired to get sober and got saved also. so we’re working it out.
he’s not as good at indulging immediately into the prayer life, worship, etc. he’s very shy and thinks it’s all a little overwhelming and has lots of questions still which is fine. his baby steps are noticed.
i keep wondering if God even wants this relationship for me. or He wanted me out. and then wondered if we do work it out, if God wants us to just…stop having sex even though we’ve been already doing it?
it’s all a little overwhelming for me to think about.
part of me is like Gods using this relationship to teach me forgiveness, compassion etc. because i am. normally i’d just split and run. but i understand him, and grew up with him.
but then i think WHAT IF?! it’s a lot. any thoughts from more seasoned believers? be gentle!