How do I stop feeling bad for girlfriend with hEDS, POTS, ME etc. to the point of feeling bad about talking to them about stuff they cannot do eg. school, driving?
Basically, I am healthy and stuff. Meanwhile, my gf has to put up with all of the stuff you have to put up with with hEDS (subluxations and weak joints), POTS (flareups, getting tired, fatigue, etc) so she cannot get emplyed, drive, etc. She had to drop out of school at 15 and has slowly had the eds improve over the years since then (still bad and all).
Because of all of this, I just feel bad when I talk about stuff like school and walking long distances, knowing she cannot do all of this. I don't want to make her feel bad, so I usually just make it sound worse than it was so that they don't feel like she is missing out on anything good.
Now, I am having to plan to go to some university and all so that I can provide everything to us, and I just don't know how to tell her since I don't want her to feel bad for missing out on this.
Sorry if I sound like I am overcomplicating absolutely nothing, but I just feel sad talking to her about what I do in a day knowing she cannot do some of the things I do.