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Hello lovely people! I've heard there was some interest here in my weekly recaps of Heated Rivalry news, so I figured I'd share my most recent one that I posted today! Covering the news that happened from 22-06 ; 28-06. Sources and relevant links can be found in the bio of the original video. Enjoy! <3

I've been thinking about the "phone blowy" scene at the cottage a lot lately because (1) it's simply very hot hehe, but also (2) it raises interesting questions in me about playful intimacy and how consent is communicated in established relationships.

Shane initially says "Please stop. Later, okay?" Ilya then turns it into a playful challenge instead of simply stopping. Something that perhaps, on surface, doesn't seem in line with consent king Ilya Rozanov.

In other cases, this could feel uncomfortable, perhaps given previous movies or tv shows where intimacy was not safely portrayed, boundaries were crossed, or because of personal experiences. However this scene in HR doesn't feel uncomfortable at all while watching, and I was delving deeper into this feeling. And trying to understand it better.

I believe a huge part of it is context. By this point, we know Shane and Ilya have known each other for years, Ilya has consistently respected Shane's boundaries, and in the scene Shane isn't physically trapped or pressured; throughout the interaction Shane has the freedom to move away or stop it if he wants. Shane and Ilya also love to challenge or make deals wth each other (mostly ilya initiating and Shane eagerly participating). And we know that Ilya is a highly perceptive person and can read Shane, and his body, very well.

What we see in the phone blowy scene is a Shane who initially refuses verbally and doesn't verbally accept the deal that Ilya has given him, but then makes a very interesting choice on where to sit on the couch after Ilya proposed that deal with him. When Ilya signs he is gonna go down on him, he makes eye contact with Shane for a long time, I think so he allowing Shane time to react. And when Ilya goes down on him, Shane's body language is telling us he is enjoying it (hand on back, widening legs).

So this scene got me thinking about how much we rely on context and non-verbal communication in intimacy in (long-term) relationships.

So I'm curious:

1. Where do you think the line is between playful teasing and nudging someone to do something out their comfort zone, and genuinely pressuring someone?

2. What role do you think trust and safety in the relationship play in how you interpret this scene?

3. Did this scene make you think about consent differently, not in terms of its importance of course, but in terms of how it can be communicated, and how in long term relationships the consent is sometimes more nuanced and less explicitly announced?

Hope you are not weirded out by this discussion, I just think it's a very interesting topic to discuss! And figured this would be a safe space to do so 😊

Hello lovely people! By request, and because I was very interested in this topic as well, I did a deep dive into why we are all so obsessed with and passionate about Heated Rivalry.

The video is split up in two parts:

00:00 - 06:34 - Part 1: Why do so many people like Heated Rivalry?
06:34 - 10:08 - Part 2: The reinforcing effect of the fandom

To me it made sense to split it up into two parts, as loving the show is one thing, but sharing it within a community can reinforce our love for the show and take it to entirely different levels (and can thus also explain our obsession).

Hope you like this one! x Let me know what your thoughts are, and if there is anything that triggered your thoughts, or anything that you would like to say about the topic.

Sources are mentioned in the bio, if you have any questions about them (or anything else) let me know!

EDIT: Sorry about the fast moving letters. I didn't notice this during editing :(

Hello everyone! So in this video I used the interpersonal chemistry model to try and explain why Shane and Ilya have such good chemistry with each other. I could go on for hours analysing their relationship and love, haha.

I am curious what aspects you think make Shane and Ilya's relationship and connection with each other so special, intense and beautiful? It is truly unlike any relationship I have ever seen before.

Hello! 👋 I hope you enjoy this week's recap of Heated Rivalry news, featuring François' new series, the Heated Rivalry effect on the real hockey world, several news flashes including award news, tv and movie news, and entertainment, like Nadine Bhabha shining on the cover of Seventeen magazine, and Hanna Puley participating in a very cool costume design in TV event. And like always, three great artist highlighted and put in the spotlight for their artwork that week!

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Have a great evening/day, from wherever you're watching ❤️

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Maybe I am way too deep in my analysis here but one thing that I find really interesting about Shane's character is his moments of eye contact with Ilya.

I think because of his difficulty maintaining eye contact, the moments that he does choose to look Ilya in the eyes are so much more meaningful and intentional? And as I was editing a clip, I noticed that in the 1221 hotel room scene, when Ilya is talking about meeting up again ("you are homeless?"), Shane's eyes never leave Ilya's for almost the entire conversation.

To me this moment stood out to me because a lot of the times, Shane is looking at Ilya's lips, and Ilya has to gently bring him back to him (often by holding his chin and guiding Shane's face so he is looking him in the eyes).

We have seen it happen more frequently that Shane does hold eye contact with Ilya for longer moments, like on the couch at the cottage (not that couch hehe), or when he is sharing their future plan with Ilya in bed.

I am very curious about this! Perhaps someone who also has more knowledge of or experience with the autism spectrum could give some more information when it is for example easier/more difficult for someone with asd to maintain eye contact with a loved one?

Would love your insights. I love analyses like these 😄 ❤️

Hello lovely people! I decided to make a different video to challenge myself (the slow edits are coming soon again, promise!).

I really wanted to incorporate my background in social psychology with heated rivalry, and so I hope you liked some Heated Psychology 101 😊

Note that the social psychological concepts discussed are simplified for the purposes of this video.

Most of the information come from my old lectures, but in the bio of the video I shared some academic sources about the concepts I explained. Note that there are many many articles written on these concepts, so if you are interested feel free to delve deeper into them and search more information!

Would you like to see more heated psychology? What would you like me to delve deeper into? I do have some ideas for explaining Shane and Ilya's chemistry using a well-known interpersonal chemistry model!

Enjoy this week's recap of Heated Rivalry news! ❤️

Okay so one of the things that will just break me in season 2, and i just know Connor and Hudson will act it out phenomenally, is Shane and Ilya's internal dialogue during and after the almost-plane crash.

Ilya's fear, the text, all the thoughts of him not being able to say all the things he wanted to say, that he spent way too much time hiding his love for Shane. Him hoping that Shane will live a long happy life. Him thinking perhaps he will see his mother again.

Shane being so scared, and that fear turning into anger when he realizes that he would have been grieving the love of his life and no one (except his parents) would have known about it. Making the conclusion he is so so so sick and tired of hiding.

So incredibly heartbreaking 😭😭 I just know it's going to break us and Hudson and Connor are gonna blow us away with their performance.

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