Struggling with what to do (tummy tuck and breast augmentation)
Long time lurker, first time poster lol
I’m going back and forth on getting a tummy tuck and breast augmentation. I have thought about this for years (specifically the tummy tuck). I have had 2 pregnancies, one with multiples, and I just haven’t felt like myself in my body for a long time. It took me 5 years to lose 60lbs from my multiples pregnancy. I feel great, have kept the weight off for 2 years and I’m generally “ok” with how I look but HATE that I sometimes look pregnant and that my belly ruins a good body day because of how it sticks out in jeans or tighter dresses/tops. I know it’s vain, but I’m sure you guys understand.
I have had 2 consults with a surgeon and I was pretty ready to go last month. But now as I’m getting ready to book and pay the deposit, I keep rethinking. Worried that it’s a bad message to send to my kids, specially my daughter. That our bodies aren’t good enough the way they are. Also worried because it’s an elective surgery and is it selfish to do this. What if something happens and my kids are left without a mom. What if the surgery goes badly and I hate the results and I wish I had been thankful for the body I had? Also worried about the cost and if that’s selfish to take away from our family. And what if my body actually does look good and my adolescent body dysmorphia is rearing its ugly head? I’m 40 and if I don’t do this now, I don’t know that I will later
I originally went in thinking I’d for sure do the tummy tuck and a breast lift but surgeon said I don’t really need a lift since what actually bothers me is loss of volume on upper pole of the breast. We are considering the motiva preservé implants, so staying smaller.
I would love advice, obviously I know it’s up to me, but would really appreciate an outside unbiased perspective. My husband doesn’t want to give me an opinion one way or another because he says he loves my body now and will love it after, and it’s up to me. My best friend thinks I’m absolutely nuts for thinking about touching my boobs (she has none so she thinks I should be happy with what I was given lol). I’m adding pictures so you can see what I’m working with.
Thank you!