u/Hopelexx_Romantic

Honest rating and advice.

16yo - 20yo 5'6 - 6'1 bare foot Parents From Armenia. I live in Germany. Nose is Cooked. Ascended From Subhuman to idk what iam know.

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Hey guys, my dating life honestly sucks and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong anymore.

I’m 20 years old and I’ve only had sex once in my life. It happened two years ago with a random Portuguese girl I hooked up with. Since then, nothing really serious happened. I’ve had some situationships and talked to girls here and there, but most of the time I never felt genuinely wanted or appreciated.

Growing up, I was always kind of awkward and isolated. I got bullied a lot in school and never really fit into the typical party lifestyle. Over the years I improved myself a bit and became more confident, but deep down I still feel disconnected from people.

What confuses me is that I know I’m not ugly. I’m around 6’1” barefoot and close to 6’2” with shoes. I work out, I’m lean and in very good shape, I take care of my appearance, I eat healthy, I live alone, I have my own job, and I’m on good terms with my family. I was born in Germany but my parents are Armenian, so maybe I stand out ethnically here, I don’t know. Sometimes I feel like people don’t really value me in Germany.

There were girls from my past who randomly texted me again years later on Instagram, including attractive girls I knew from school, but it never turns into anything meaningful. Meanwhile I see guys who, honestly, are less attractive than me getting girls easily while I struggle hard.

I also feel different mentally. I have niche interests like drawing, chess, nutrition, self-improvement, and health. I’m very honest and straightforward with girls when I like them, but I feel like being genuine actually pushes them away. One girl was super into me physically at first. We got intimate quickly and everything seemed good, but when I later started treating her seriously — buying flowers, showing affection, actually caring — she suddenly lost interest and became distant.

That’s what really messes with my head. It feels like being emotionally honest or serious is unattractive nowadays. Like girls only want excitement, attention, or toxic behavior. I know that sounds bitter, but that’s genuinely how it feels from my experiences.

I’m not some lazy loser sitting in a basement. I train hard, I work, I live independently, I try to stay disciplined, I even pray sometimes and go to church. On paper my life should be decent, but mentally I still feel empty and unwanted.

At this point I honestly feel broken sometimes. I keep questioning myself and wondering if I’m simply not enough for women no matter how much I improve. I even started having dark thoughts because the loneliness and rejection keep stacking up in my head.

I just want to know: what am I actually doing wrong?

I feel like a fucking gymcelled Retard, that got deported away from woman. I want to end it with oxycodone, i cant stand it anymore. Either that, or moneymaxx to hardmaxx my looks to ascend. Helpp please