Is it weird to still celebrate if Both of my parents passed before i turned 30? I still celebrate their birthdays, i go to Denny’s, get some food and hit a thrift shop or a bar ( depending on the birthday). I do the same thing every year since i was 24.
I get pancakes for dad, and get them to go, i eat my food, sometimes with my son. Then give the pancakes to the first homeless person i see. We have a single dessert and play the claw machine before i wish dad a happy birthday. Then i play a game of pool/go to a bar for a drink in the evening. For mom, i make sure i get carne asada fries from somewhere or i get pancakes at Denny’s(both her favorite things) i get a dessert for myself and for a stranger( it can brighten a homeless person’s day for a small pie or whatever. ) then my son and i will go thrifting, then a park i can pick clovers, haven’t gotten a 4leaf in a long time. My son barely remembers them. More my dad than mom. They spoiled him with candy and sweets. My siblings don’t know i do this as i don’t speak to them. Its just me and my son. Sometimes when someone else is grieving i invite them too. My son, asked why we celebrate their birthdays if they passed. I didn’t really know what to say, it was how i coped, when mom went, dad came along and it was just us 3, id pay, leave a tip and write, thank you for helping me celebrate my mom’s(now dad’s) heavenly birthday. Ive had rough experiences giving food away, in the past. (Homeless guy, looked into the to go box and asked for money. broke my heart, i give ice water with these meals so i know its not for a drink). Is it weird to keep doing this?