I started this 1,5 years ago, then didn’t touch it till recently and finished yesterday. I’m super nervous on how the glaze will behave in the kiln. Really wanted to share the before.
I’ve been in therapy for a year now. Have made exponential progress. Me and my therapist have a beautiful relationship supported by awesome boundaries. And I am so overwhelmed with gratitude I’ve been having an intense urge to give her something (and I have before, like a printed photograph I had taken, a page of my journal that was about our relationship and she gladly accepted them, and thanked me). Not because I feel like I owe her something. Gift giving/receiving is the last of my love languages and the new shades of love and gratitude I have been experiencing through our relationship have awakened that love language. I have never in my life wanted to give someone something just because I wanted to give it to them for no reason before. We are kind of wrapping up because of her maternal leave and I finally want to give a drawing I had been wanting to give her for a long time. I’m certain I want to give it to her. And I truly don’t see an issue with that, even if she kindly declines that honestly wouldn’t be a problem to me. The issue I am having with is giving it framed.
I caught myself worrying if the frame would look good at her place and immediately realized that I had the hope she would hang it. That hope doesn’t seem healthy, if you will, and I know what kind of need it underneath that. It’s not neutral to gift a framed drawing.
My next line of thinking was “well, if she doesn’t want to hang it, she can easily remove the frame, or just not hang it, but if she wants to she’ll have the option” but this doesn’t feel right. I think what she does with the gift is not my territory.
I’m inclined to thinking giving it without the frame is the better thing to do, I think I’ll even talk to her about this, but I would really love to get some other perspectives. Maybe I’m not seeing, missing something.