My dad peed on my house
This is my first time posting sorry if it’s not correct.
For context I (24m) am a trans man who has just moved in with my partner (34nb) of two years and it’s going amazingly.
I don’t have a very close relationship with my dad (51m) since my parents separated when I was a baby and mum was the stable one of the two, but recently he’s been coming to my house and cleaning things without asking.
It started with bleaching our deck and footpath then mowing our yard (which is very large). We didn’t ask him to do this and had the maintenance under control. I had planned to mow the yard that day and was actively getting my mower out when he showed up and insisted his mower was better and then proceeded to do the yard “the right way”.
I am autistic and a large part of moving out was to have a space that was mine and my partners, our responsibility, our mess.
So I was already uncomfortable having him there when I wasn’t mentally prepared for it.
Right before leaving, my dad had to use the bathroom that my partner was currently occupying.
My partner heard that he needed to use it and finished up. They were in there no more than 3 minutes but when I walked outside I found my father urinating on the side of my house right around the corner from our back door. Like 30cm away from the door. The door that leads directly into our kitchen and dining.
Again, we have a large backyard, it has trees, not even a metre away was a cluster of trees and bushes. Yet he chose to use our first home as a toilet.
Needless to say I was upset and still am.
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