Are we safe from pregnancy going raw from my cycle days 20 onward?
My bf and I are in an exclusive relationship, both clean and devoted and in our late 20s. I am HORRIFIED of pregnancy to the point it affects our sex life badly. I was on the pill and we used to have regular sex but now it happens only once to twice a month (penetrative). I opted out pills because of my own personal reasons and we currently do all three of these methods simultaneously: 1) condoms, 2) pullout when he finishes, 3) avoiding sex around the middle od my cycle.
Using those three methods has massively narrowed down the days on my cycle when we can have sex. My cycle is between 26 and 33 days, so not exactly consistent. Which also adds up to the anxiety as we never know when I ovulate.
My libido is also horribly low in my luteal phase, so even when my head’s at rest knowing we can have sex then (still using condoms and pullout), I am not in the mood. You can imagine how frustrating all od this is.
I love spontaneous sex, morning and middle of the night the most. And during those times condoms are really not convenient and getting the lube out and stuff. We used to have this kind of sex when I was on the pill and we both miss it. So, my question is, considering women’s fertile window is actually really small and most of it is anxiety, are we safe of falling pregnant when we go raw on my 20th and further days of cycle? Still using finishing outside of course.
Thanks in advance.