Boomer doesn’t approve of my tattoos….
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For reference I’m a somewhat heavily tattooed person. So I’m standing in line at the grocery store, minding my business, when the older (boomer) woman in front of me glances back. She slowly shakes her head and does that little *tsk tsk* sound people make when they disapprove of something.
At first, I assume she’s annoyed about the line moving slowly and wants someone to join in her irritation. (Which already annoys me because complaining won’t make things move faster.) So I avoid eye contact and keep to myself.
Then she turns around and says, “Real shame you did that to yourself.”
Now she has my attention.
I look directly at her and ask, “Are you speaking to me?”
She says, “Yes. You have such beautiful skin and you’ve covered it all up with those tattoos.”
At this point, I’m annoyed because… what an unnecessary thing to say to a complete stranger.
So I tell her, “I love my skin with and without tattoos, and you really shouldn’t feel so comfortable commenting on people’s appearance when they didn’t ask for your opinion.”
She gets instantly offended and looks absolutely flabbergasted. Then says, “Well, I was trying to give you a compliment!”
I told her that wasn’t a compliment, and maybe next time she should think twice before commenting on a stranger’s appearance.
She just kept shaking her head at me like *I* had somehow disappointed *her*.
Luckily, by then she had reached the cashier, which redirected her attention for a minute. When she finished checking out, she snarkily said, “You have a nice day.”
I smiled big and told her to have one too.
I genuinely hope she remembers this interaction the next time she feels compelled to give someone a backhanded “compliment.” But somehow I doubt it.