How would you deal with this ?
Hi everyone , hope everyone is doing well .
Im lost about how to deal with my parents (especially my father) rejecting a potential spouse because of his origins.
Long story short, we moved to a new city 9 years ago and ive lived there 4 years there before moving out to complete my studies elsewhere. Ive met my current boyfriend 2 years ago and coincidentally he comes from that city.
He wants us to make our relationship official and get engaged, i told my mother and she told me to wait until after graduation, and when she asked me about him she was surprised when i told her his origins and she was very hesitant.
Now the issue is that we got robbed this year, and it was her first encounter with the whole moroccan legal system. And instead of channeling her anger towards the system she started complaining about how corrupt the people from this region are.
Other than the fact that i have no idea how my father thinks, but sometimes he gives me the idea that maybe he wants me to get married to someone in family or from our region, and to me these are no negotiable no’s , i dont have any common interests with my cousins and i dont see myself getting along with someone in my family.
Now my boyfriend comes from a respectable hardworking family that really started from nothing. My mom actually met his mother before we started dating and she told me that she was « m3qola » and very respectful.And i met his mother after a year dating and she was really nice. So id say that he isnt anything like the robber or any loser with no ambitions in life.
We’ve decided to make it official this december, but with these things happening im afraid he will be rejected by my parents before they get to know him. So if that ever happens, what would you do and how would you approach your parents to change their mind ?