In a normal world I would say something I am not conflict adverse I am very direct but this is not the place and it won't change this narcissistic monster anyway but the woman (my director) who I told HR is hostile and they did an independent review - laughable - and didn't even look into that... But did find that her behavior was "bad" if this doesn't make sense don't worry - it doesn't.
Anyway today a student was saying how she was excited to do clinicals at the pediatric oncology unit at the local hospital.
This isn't a student I know I was just working in the lab with grad students and she is interested in being a grad student. So the director goes oh yeah well she knows that unit really well. With a big $hiteater grin on her face then leaves.
So the student is excited to ask me about it thinking maybe I worked there or did clinicals.
How do you know it - she asks excitedly!
I was like well my kid had cancer and lost her leg to it. We were in patient for a year I basically lived there.
The student was horrified and embarrassed. I felt bad for them. It wasn't their fault.
It wasn't their business.
It was on purpose.
It was sick.
How would that make you feel?
I know that is weird because there are a lot of weird things at play here and nothing is ordinary. Also don't feel bad for me or my kid. We are good. Life is good.
But what the eff?