Cardiologist Judgement
So I don’t know if I’m overreacting. For context I normally see a different cardiologist and really like him, but this woman was covering for him at my appointment. I mentioned that I’m getting a hysterectomy in July because I wanted to make sure they knew in case it affected any medications or anything heart related. My OBGYN at the same hospital wrote this in my chart.
Now I’m not just randomly deciding to do this. I’ve been dealing with ongoing health problems and this was a decision made with my doctors after a lot of thought. It’s already been an emotional thing for me to process because I’m only 21. When I asked her if my medicine needed to be changed since I'm getting a hysterectomy she looked me up and down. Then she told me "I was taking away my God-given right.” She asked me how my mom felt about it even though I’m an adult and went to the appointment alone. She also told me that only people with serious health problems get hysterectomies. I looked at her and said I was well aware and told her it is in my chart on why I needed one. She never even talked about my medicine and skipped over it.
The whole thing just felt super judgmental and uncomfortable. I wasn’t asking for her opinion on my surgery or trying to debate it with her. I was just updating my doctor about an upcoming surgery. I left the appointment feeling awful honestly. I already know getting a hysterectomy this young is a huge decision. But her way of talking about it had me mad.
Now I keep going back and forth on whether I should file a complaint or just move on from it.
Also my best friend was on the phone with me during the appointment and heard all of this. I asked her if I heard this correctly because I couldn't believe it.