(sorry for the repost i had to change some things haha)
hello! i'm not sexually active right now (and never had sex before) but i plan to be with my boyfriend when he's moving back in the area again in a few months :D
i'm 17, and my parents don't know about my boyfriend. if they found out i had a boyfriend (and going to have sex) they'd actually kill me 😭😭
so i was thinking i shouldn't go on pills since those are easy to find if i try to hide them, and my mom has gone through my stuff before.
i had talked to my boyfriend about it, and we both like the idea of doing it without condoms. i was thinking of getting an IUD, but i'm terrified of the pain of getting it and i've heard people say that the cramps are really bad when you get it. and it getting expelled or something??
how would i get birth control without parental permission? would they be able to see it in the bills or my credit card? could i pay in cash so they can't see it? how long would it be until i'm able to have sex without a condom?
i live in california btw!