u/Individual-Fan1114

hello I know this has been asked before but I would like a more newer and accurate response lols.

i got accepted into smu and nus for their CS programs, and I came from poly if that matters.

i really enjoy web development and cybersecurity, so im kind of torn between smu or nus. i live in the east so smu is a bit closer for me, and nus doesn’t have guaranteed hall stay unlike ntu lol.

for those who accepted smu over nus for CS, could I get your perspective why?

I graduate from Poly this Tuesday, but I don’t want to go. Advice needed.

My graduation ceremony is coming up in two days, and honestly, the thought of going is giving me literal panic attacks. I’m at the point where I don’t even want to step foot on campus ever again.

The Situation
My poly life was actually okay until my final year. I had a massive falling out with my friend group, and it turned ugly fast. They started spreading rumors and saying some pretty horrible things behind my back.

As most of you know, news travels fast in poly. Now, it feels like my entire graduating cohort knows about the "beef." I feel like if I show up, I’ll just be a target for stares, whispers, or further drama.

Where I’m At Right Now
• My Parents: I’ve already told them I don’t want to go, but the pressure is still there.
• My Mental Health: Just thinking about the venue makes me spiral. I genuinely don't think I can handle being in that environment.
• The Logistics: I want to skip it, but I’m not sure how the process works (getting the diploma later, etc.).

My Questions
1. Has anyone else skipped their graduation for mental health reasons? How did you feel afterward? Any regrets?
2. How do I collect my diploma if I don’t attend? Do I just head to the admin office a week later, or can it be mailed?

I just want to move on with my life and leave this drama in the past. Any advice or words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated.