36, Male, I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and I’m curious if anyone relates.
I’m a really sociable person, I genuinely enjoy talking to people, whether that’s at the gym, out and about, or even just starting random conversations, But lately I feel like I’m out of sync with how most people operate today.
For example, I’ll chat to people at the gym and it feels like a good interaction, but afterwards I sometimes wonder, were they actually into it, or just being polite? I never seem to see anyone making small talk with me first.
Same with messaging. If someone texts me, I’ll reply within a few minutes because… why wouldn’t I? My phone’s on me anyway. But I’ve noticed a lot of people take days to reply, and it turns what could be a normal conversation into something that drags out over a week.
I also prefer calling people, it feels more natural and real to me, but I’ve been told that’s “too much” or a bit weird nowadays by my younger sisters.
I’m starting to feel like I come across as a bit full-on, when really I just enjoy genuine interaction.
Is anyone else like this? Or has anyone figured out how to balance being sociable without feeling like you’re overwhelming people?
Finally, iv also actively told friends before if I feel they dont make effort, or if I feel interaction is only 1 way driven.
I have kids, a full time job and a partner yet I still find time