How can I best assure my child’s father will have limited access? - England
Hello,
My partner and I share a child and at the moment still live together, however I intend to leave as soon as I am able as I believe it’s in my daughters best interests to be away from this man.
He’s not physically violent, however he does get angry, shout, and somewhat aggressive at times. I really don’t want him to have unsupervised access to our child as the way he behaves towards her when I’m present is somewhat concerning, and if this is the way he acts with me present I’d hate to think how he could act when he’s alone.
He does no childcare, in the past 2 years I can count on one hand the amount of times he’s fed her, changed a nappy, etc. I have some concerns he’d be neglectful of her needs, but my main concern is his temper.
He’s a ‘great’ father when others are present, and I don’t necessarily want him to have no contact. However I don’t really want him to have overnight or for long periods on his own because of this.
I’ve started a ‘log’ where I record the date and his actions whenever he acts in a concerning manner with the intention of this being used to help my case if this does go to court, but I was wondering if that would even be considered evidence as it’s still my word against his and could still have just all been made up with random dates etc.
I would have zero confidence leaving my child with him. At best I feel like she’d be neglected and not fed/cleaned and ignored for long periods of time, at worst I worry the shouting and throwing things/aggressive behaviour could escalate into him physically harming her. I’d appreciate it if anyone had advice for me on how best to protect my child from him having unsupervised access. Thanks.