Should I respond to my mother after voicing how I feel, my concerns, and boundaries?
People may remember I made a post of the messages I received from my mother that was very flip flopping from love bombing to being manipulative then love bombing again.
Well, the messages didn’t end. Called me out in a group text with my husband, messaged me on social media.
Well, I just sent a text to my mother this morning stating that the incessant messages from her(on social media and text) are overwhelming. I voiced my concerns. Gave outlets of what she can do to manage her emotions and stress. And set a boundary.
I’m not upset that she says “hi, how are you?” I’m upset that it always has to lead to demanding attention, venting, complaining, and then getting loads of love bombing messages then angry messages and then getting another “hi, how are you doing?” as if just the last text wasn’t problematic. She gossips to me about my siblings. She complains about my brother who lives at home. She is acting like none of her kids keep contact. I last spoke to her April 28th. I offered her to come over for lunch. She declined.
She does nothing all day. She’s retired. She can drive, has a car, and refuses to go anywhere. She has no friends, talks to no family, and has no hobbies. I suggest she find better outlets and voicing I’m not the outlet. She, to no surprise, thinks I’m attacking her.
For someone who goes to see her doctor EVERY week now all of a sudden doesn’t want to see a doctor to manage her influx of fluctuating emotions, her irritability, and simply to talk to someone. That tells me she doesn’t want to change.
And just as I thought…she just wanted a response and then spins it into me attacking her. Now I may be biased that I don’t think I said anything attacking. But if I did, should I still respond to this text?
I feel like I shouldn’t. But maybe I’m wrong. I don’t know anymore. I’m so drained