To be clear, I am very understanding of my boyfriend’s situation, and have no problem helping him. I just feel like it’s basic human decency, let me begin.
I (F16) and my boyfriend (M18) have been together for 1 year and 5 months. (To be clear, he started dating me before he turned 18, and we are only 1 year and 8 months apart). My boyfriend’s family has money problems and I’ve known this since the beginning of the relationship. His family has no interest whatsoever in giving him his basic necessities such as razors, shampoo, food, loofah’s, etc. I have no problem helping him out to get these necessities, in fact I help him quite often—even though I know it’s not my job.
Recently, my mother set a boundary to have my boyfriend come over less which I understand, so my boyfriend has had to stop eating as much, showering as much, and handling his self care.
Earlier tonight we were on FaceTime while he was in the shower, and I noticed him using a purple loofah that looked used, and I quickly asked whose loofah it was. His response was basically an “idk”—so I immediately knew that it was someone else’s loofah.
(To be clear, me and my boyfriend took each other’s virginities and we both have HSV-1). I obviously got taken aback by this response because he knows that he has HSV-1 and the fact that he doesn’t see a problem using one of his female family member’s loofah’s truly bothers me. Not to mention he thought of him using a loofah that has been on one of his female family member’s genitalia shakes me to my core.
When I pointed this out, he instantly started freaking out on me for being upset about him using the loofah, but I feel like I have every right to be bothered. Now he’s telling me to pack all of his stuff and leave it outside for him to pick up in the morning.
He is truly my whole world, and I wish he could just see that it wasn’t “disgust”, it was coming from true concern tonight.
AITA??