Is college really the last place to find your partner?
My thoughts are slightly scattered just bear with me. As a third year now, I’m finding it a bit hard connecting with people romantically. I’ll admit I am a bit of an avoidant now(the standard transition from previously having anxious attachment before a traumatic past relationship). I genuinely don’t think my looks are the problem. In fact, I’ve done almost all the rejecting this year. I think I’m just finding it hard to find guys that meet my expectations. I realize they are pretty high but l don’t feel good about lowering them and forcing myself to settle for less. Many guys are also just straight up immature which is an immediate no. I crave authenticity and sometimes can’t help but read ppl. I know it’s not a great trait but I can’t really control it. I don’t have any issue being respectful towards others, being a good listener, or just good decent friend to others because everyone deserves that. It’s just been so hard to then connect with them on an even deeper level and I’m kind of losing hope.
I’m don’t mess around with many guys because I like having a deep emotional connection before I feel safe enough to have a physical one. I would never go on dating apps as I prefer real life interactions. But these limit my options. Everyone says college is the last social setting where you have access to many diff ppl and I’m just wondering if I’m missing out not expanding and giving men more of a shot?