u/IntelligentHeat8824

How can I make working out feel better?

I’m a 20 year old girl and I was diagnosed with dyspraxia when I was 12. I’ve always struggled with fitness and I’ve brushed it to the side because I’m skinny. Now that I’m 20, I’ve realized that it’s not about being skinny, it’s about being healthy. I’ve started to do work outs but one thing I’ve realized is that my body has zero idea of how to move and zero spatial awareness. I go to the gym with a friend who has gone for years and she’s amazing but she’s always having to correct my form which my body cannot seem to understand for some reason. I’ll follow workout routines on YouTube and I’ll struggle so hard to copy what they are doing with their body to the point I just end up hurting myself, meanwhile my other beginner friends have zero problem. I’m not feeling discouraged because I really want to try but every thing I do try I seem to get “wrong”. I’d like to start going to Pilates classes but I’m honestly quite terrified I’ll just get yelled at about how my form is.

Does anyone else with dyspraxia struggle with this? And what did you do to help? I really just want to start feeling confident in what I’m doing and how I’m doing it. Any advice would be amazing :)

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u/IntelligentHeat8824 — 5 days ago

Scared of having sex due to flat nipples, am i overthinking this?

I’m a 20 year old girl and a virgin and I think I’m going to have sex soon. My breast are my biggest insecurity..I know people get a lot of these types of questions on here but I don’t see questions with my specific type of boob so here it goes. I have large areolas which wouldn’t be a big deal if my nipples didn’t literally blend into them and to make matters worse, they never come out and are not sensitive at all! I’ve never felt the feeling of my nipples brushing up on my clothing which I get extreme FOMO about lol! I tell people this and they seem shocked, I had a previous boyfriend who was feeling my boobs up through my shirt and got weirded out when he couldn’t feel the nipple. I’m terrified of taking my top off in front of people due to this. I know preferences are subjective and that’s totally okay but I just want to know what the majority thinks. Thank you :)

Edit: I also forgot to add that because I’m white as hell with thin skin I have very prominent veins on them so that’s also adds to my insecurity. Thank you to everyone that has commented though! I definitely need to build up my confidence

Edit 2: So this is a separate thing but after having some conversations I feel like a lot of my insecurities stem from the fact my current boyfriend has an active porn addiction and I know for a fact likes to act out some of the stuff he watches…

Edit 3: sorry for all the edits but I have a little update..to be honest this post has really grown but I do really appreciate all the advice from all of you guys!! So anyways, basically I ended up talking with my boyfriend about how I was feeling about his addiction and how it was affecting my self esteem and comfortably in the relationship, he got mad and basically said that he goes to porn because I’m not giving him anything (I pleasure him a lot..he hasn’t done anything for me btw) we got into an argument ..I brought up this post in the heat of the conversation and now he is pissed he’s now telling me I’m an awful partner and won’t talk to me..I ended up driving back to my place and I’m not sure what to do..on top of that he told me that he thinks it’s because of my autism that I just don’t understand his desires like what does that even mean

Edit 4: I honestly did not expect this to blow up like it did, if started out as just a simple question and then I ended up having some conversations with some lovely people in my DM’s (thank you to all of you who helped) I realized that a lot of the issues I was having with my body stemmed from my now ex boyfriend We broke up this morning and tbh I actually feel a lot less stressed about things. Thank you to everyone for taking the time out f your day to give me advice. I sincerely appreciate all of it.

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u/IntelligentHeat8824 — 9 days ago