Seeking advice: should I have a baby while finishing a PhD?
I (28F) just found out that I am 5 weeks pregnant. In the fall, I will be starting the last year of my PhD with a plan to graduate in the spring. My bf (29M) and I are not married, but was planning to be engaged this year. I work part time and make about 45k a year + 16k support through a graduate assistantship.
While getting an abortion is the most logical decision, the thought of keeping the baby keeps crossing my mind. Honestly, I get kinda happy thinking about having the baby, but then my logical side kicks in and I’m reminded of how financially unstable I am.
It also doesn’t help that my parents would be very disappointed in knowing that I am pregnant, as they have made it very clear to me and my bf that they strongly prefer I finish school before getting engaged/married. I also know that my social life would change significantly if I have a baby, and I’m not sure if I will be able to handle the isolation that motherhood seems to bring. My bf says he is supportive of my decision either way.
Sorry for the long post; I guess I’m just looking for any advice or insight from someone who has had a similar experience. Is it crazy to want to have the baby at such an unstable time in my life? Is it better to just get the abortion? :/