Hi all, been meaning to post here for a while as I know I would have been desperate to read a post like this when I was really struggling. It might not sound life changing to everyone but it is to me and maybe it will be to someone else with the same problem - reduced sensation / weak orgasms.
Male, 41 years old. For years since getting PSSD/PFS in my early 30s I’ve dealt with low to no genital sensation and disappointing orgasms - hard to say but maybe 10-30% of pre PSSD orgasms. It’s always bothered me a lot because I was always a very sexual person and genuinely saw sex as one of the best parts of life, so to have that taken away has been shit and I genuinely hated it. It’s ruined so many of my days - I used to be in these forums for hours and hours reading people’s posts, then I’d find a supplement or med that worked for someone and buy it and try it for weeks / months but can’t say I ever got much luck. The only thing that maybe helped might’ve been low dose naltrexone, as I once randomly had really nice sex when I was taking it, but I can’t be 100% it was that. I also had terribly flat mood one day around the time I was on it and got paranoid it was the LDN, worried it was gonna give me anhedonia so I stopped that day.
For years I believed something was permanently broken but I’m not so sure now because I’ve found a way to have really nice orgasms almost every time… and just to be clear, I’ve got no connection to this company at all. Some of you who have been on here a long time will know I’ve donated thousands to PSSD and PFS charities so I’m only posting this because it has genuinely helped me…
I’ve been using a sex toy called “Tenga Flip Zero” (the black one) for around a year now, and it’s the only thing that has given me genuinely strong, satisfying orgasms again most of the time, sometimes close to how things felt before all this started. I took both Finasteride and SSRIs in the past, so I can’t be sure whether my numbness came from PFS, PSSD or a mix of both.
I’ve tried loads of supplements, medications, and different TRT protocols, but nothing really helped much. The only times I sometimes had a better orgasm or better sexual response was after heavy drinking sessions and taking diazepam the day after for anxiety, or strangely after poor sleep. And maybe that one time I was taking LDN, but I can’t remember if I’d had a big drinking session then too so I can’t be sure that was the LDN that caused that.
I’m certainly not “fixed” as I’d still love normal natural sensation during sex or regular masturbation, and getting that back would be amazing. But this genuinely is massive for me and has helped me cope far far better… After a satisfying orgasm, I can get on with my day / life and not feel like I’m completely missing out anymore. I felt that loss for 6+ years and hated every day of it. Also it has given me proof that I’m still capable of decent orgasms which gives me hope that things can still work down there and might one day work properly again either by time or if a cure is ever found 🤞It would be great to have good sex again like I used to!
Another random thing I’ve noticed that helps a bit, if I masturbate under the duvet and my glans is lightly touching the material, sensation is a little better and orgasms improve. Nowhere near the Tenga level, but enough to notice. The Tenga fully wraps around the penis and is tight around the glans so I wonder if my sensation problem is some sort of brain / penis connection thing. As when I masturbate without doing any of that, sensation and orgasm is really bad.
Lastly, I mostly use porn and the combo of that plus tenga is what helps the most, the odd time I don’t use porn sensation/orgasm is still better but not as good as with it.
Hope this helps someone and if it does and you try it, please let me know, it would be nice to hear it helped 👍