u/Jaded-Cash-503

The BM got let go this morning. Not because of what she said to me but I was seriously considering taking it to HR.

I feel bad but also don’t.

I will try to make this short. My executive got laid off in January this year and his successor started 2 weeks ago. So for about 4 months I’ve been in limbo as no one has reached out to me or communicated to me what will happen to my role. There was only speculation that the new executive would be using the local EA instead of me because they are both based in the same city and office. I’m based in another location where my former boss was also based. So it made sense to do a switcheroo and I would inherit the other EA’s executive. On day 3 of new executive’s arrival, I had this conversation with him. He said he needed some time to think about it as he’s still learning how things work around here.

Last Friday, I approached the other executive and asked if she knew what would happen to my role and she immediately got hostile and defensive. Tried to womansplain me that I can’t just barge into her office and ask what will happen to me and that I should be deciding that for myself. Asking me questions like what do you want? I tell her the truth and say I prefer continuity and support the role I supported before (so the new executive). I feel like I probably offended her because I didn’t say I wanted to support her. She told me I need to be more open minded and other bs saying I can’t support the new guy because we’re in different cities. But the funny and ironic thing is she and her EA are in different locations so when I told her that, she said “well we made it work.”

Today I talked to my business manager and soft documented that conversation. And when I mentioned the open-minded part, she also tried to lecture me saying she agrees with that. Last year there were several team members who tried to take advantage of me to do their expenses and travel etc. My boss was against this and told me to push back saying I’m busy supporting him. It was perceived as me not being a team player.

BM mentions that my boss always and no matter what defended me and always had my back despite team members saying I don’t respond to their emails in a timely manner, I don’t pick up their random calls, etc. he would always defend me saying I have a lot on my plate. So BM says “it got to a point where I thought you two were having an affair.” I was so completely flabbergasted and offended and hurt. People will talk shit for me doing a bad job but when I’m being praised for good work, it must be an affair?

I’ve been interviewing since the day former boss left. It’s been hard. What would you do?