u/Jaded-Jacket2630

Me and my flatmate were best friend when we moved in but things have deteriorated over the yea. It has reached a point where I move out in less than a week but she is asking me to leave as my presence is apparently stressing her out.

Lot's of stuff has gone wrong in the tenancy, such as her boyfriend having to move in with us over a massive friend group break down (he is not on the lease), as well as lots of repair issues and the heating bill being a lot higher than we expected (which they blamed on me before taking over and changing the contract and realizing we just have high heating costs). This is all context that a lot of the trust is gone and I feel very isolated in a flat where I get blanked basically at random depending on if she likes me or not today

My flatmate has offered me to clean everything except my room if I would just leave early (an option I thankfully have). She is staying so it is only my deposit at risk, my deposit is also multiple times the size as I didn't have guarantor at the start of the year. The trust is basically gone for me now and I want to know how I should protect myself if I did take this from her not cleaning since I won't have pictures of everything clean before I leave (the inspection is 4 days after I hand in my keys)

edit: she made this request in person I don't as of yet have this in writing

This is a rewrite of a previous post that got flagged for having an internal link.

intro

I'm caught between small communities with complex medical needs. A trans woman, with gluten intolerance, ADHD, potential MCAS and HEDS. I think the EDS community could benefit from better internal information sharing?

Information seems thin and contradictory. The Ehlers Danlos Society and this sub have some good resources. But they both are not comprehensive due to their formats.

Solution?

The trans community organizes a medical, psychological, clinical and legal wiki on surgery. Down to individual surgeons and clinic reputations in specific countries.

(navigate to the trans surgery wikipedia index, you might have to navigate through r/ transsurgeries. WARNING: contains images of the results of peoples surgeries) if you're in the uk this support network is blocked because our government classifies it as porn, use a vpn

I think looking shows how well everything is presented. Good formatting and style decrease the fatigue as you find the right info.

My Question

I drafted a small plan last night. sections containing:

• regional advice (what treatments pathway, diagnostic criteria. respected medical institutions and others are there in your country. This is useful info to give to your GP or family doctor immediately as it could speed up your diagnosis and treatment)
• less medicalised summaries of the 13/14 subtypes, as well as less medicalised summaries of symptoms. (summaries of the types of EDS already exist, however, demedicalising the language to make the symptoms more identifiable to people is important)
• a summary of different products and lifestyle adaptations to alleviate different symptoms,
• local disability and labour rights to protect you at work and while claiming benefits (not as fleshed out as the above yet)

I have also read through the HEDS-START report here in Scotland which has made me wonder if collecting some personal anecdotes might help people alongside the wiki.

does this sound like a good plan? Is there any info I'm missing