u/Jumpy_Weakness_5173

I would ideally like to meet my partner & flow into a relationship from a friendship, but I always attract extremely obsessive men who appear to be emotionally detached but become obsessed with power dynamics & we either move too quickly or they completely shut down playing mind games on purpose. Some even admit to it. Most tell me they think im ready for something super serious even when I try to stay casual & see no future with them. Most of my exes hit me up for years after we break up & want to keep in contact. How do I navigate this into finding a healthy relationship?