u/Just-Set-8714

I’d like to share an experience.
I met this man on bumble and he was a 10/10 on paper.
Has his infra company, divorced, takes care of his health, well built, studied in the us, has some great credentials, looking to settle, takes care of his health, works out, has a decent home and maid and cook, was ready for the next step. I have equally solid credentials, lifestyle, professional career and felt it was a good match in terms of alignment from values, timeline, life goals, children, family etc
After a few months of dating met his family and it all seemed nice, we were serious we started living together. Although he somehow always evaded meeting my family and I didn’t pay attention. That should have given me a hint and it didn’t. Average people don’t use the manipulative muscle as much as people who are intentionally predators.
He then started asking money for work and said will return… me thinking anyway we are settling down soon I helped, only to know such dark details later on.
He had a child too, was neck deep in debts including his family, had so many women behind back. When. I asked my money back physical abuse started.
My only caution to men and women both here woould be please don’t go by by words, even though I met his family it seems like it was a ll fake. They were equally involved.
He was not even divorced. The details get more horrible.
My only advice: don’t lend money to anyone, hire a personal detective to dig everything about that person if things start to get serious and you like them.
My nativity costed me a lot. Hope girls don’t do this mistake.
Also when another woman warns you about a guy please pay attention, she isn’t trying to take your man away, it’s always worth probing. I tried to save other women but they thought I was trying o steal their man.