u/KLatell

I (28F), have signs of PCOS. This includes thinning hair, acne, hirsutism, and weight that concentrates in my abdomen. These signs have all worsened significantly in the last year.

I am really struggling with self-esteem, confidence, and trust in my relationship. My partner (29M), is attractive and athletic. He regularly voices concern or points out aspects of my appearance which makes me feel insecure in my relationship. For example, today he pointed out I had some longer hairs on my chin (I couldn’t see these indoors so I missed shaving them). He asked me to shave them and said he is asking because it impacts his attraction to me. He says he loves me and he is just letting me know so I can manage it. He is always pushing me hard towards lifestyle behaviours or treatments that can correct my symptoms. He says he loves me despite my physical challenges and wants to empower me to take action.

I feel so hopeless. I feel like I just want to suffer alone. I feel like attraction is such a big part of a romantic relationship and I don’t think there is any way he could find me attractive in this state. I feel like I am trapped in a “half love” where he can like my personality but nothing else. And what’s even worse is my insecurity and sadness is pushing him away too.

Here’s the thing - I think what he is experiencing is valid. He has the right to not to feel attracted to me. I’m not upset at him for these feelings or comments. I feel so sad this has happened to me.

Hi All!

I will be visiting Iceland from Canada at the end of May and staying for 2 weeks. I’m so excited to see your beautiful country and will be getting to explore the island via the Ring Road.

Due to a health condition, I have many food intolerances that can make eating while travelling difficult. I have to avoid gluten, dairy, yeast, vinegar, and some other fermented ingredients (condiments, soy sauce). I don’t do well with added sugars. I basically eat extremely clean at home - no processed foods, no added sugars. Lots of fresh vegetables, meat, fruit, and grains (rice, oats).

I know it will be impossible to completely avoid all of the foods mentioned above during my visit - I will need to eat at restaurants at times. I will be bringing lots of snacks with me, shopping at your grocery stores, and cooking when able.

But does anyone have recommendations for restaurants that may have more simple ingredients or that would be okay accommodating? I don’t mind requesting modifications to dishes - for example getting salads and then replacing the dressing with olive oil/lemon. I’m happy if I can get some eggs and veg for breakfast. Or a simple protein and veg side for dinner.

One dish I really am hoping to try is your lamb stew!

Thanks so much for your help.