u/KPthePriest

How do I get past my shame when I wear certain fragrances?

I am a woman in my early 20’s, and lately I’ve really liked to try and wear more masculine type fragrances when I go to work and uni. I have no issues with my identity or anything, my nose has just really liked those scents as of late. Before when I wore my feminine perfumes, I hardly got noticed. Now though that I started wearing more ‘man’ stuff ppl come up to me all the time asking about it.

Getting more compliments is nice, but when people ask what I’m wearing I feel this deep shame and embarrassment, and I usually just say that I forgot or that it was my detergent or something. The idea of admitting that I’m wearing a masculine fragrance really just sets my anxiety to 100.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does that shame ever go away or do I just have to deal with it? I still enjoy my ‘girly’ stuff and I don’t plan on only wearing masculine scents forever but it would be nice to not feel like that all the time.

EDIT: I have realized that marketing and social engineering may have had a stronger grip on my psyche than I once thought. You guys have actually been really nice about all of this so I want to say thanks. I think I’m gonna fake my confidence until I actually have it.

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u/KPthePriest — 18 hours ago