I learnt that nothings temporary
Ever since I came to India from abroad for college and moved into a hostel, I’ve felt like I’m constantly being treated as a “use and throw” friend.
There was this one girl who I became really close with. She used to call me her best friend, we were almost always together, and I genuinely thought I had finally found someone I could be comfortable around in the hostel.
Then, completely out of nowhere, things changed.
She suddenly became really close with another girl. At first I thought it was normal — obviously people can have more than one friend, and I wasn’t expecting her to only talk to me. But the difference was that she started avoiding me.
Now whenever I try to go up to her or talk to her, she seems like she’s actively trying to avoid me. Meanwhile, she’s really close with this new friend.
And honestly, that’s what hurts the most. It’s not even that she made another friend. It’s the fact that she went from calling me her best friend and being with me all the time to acting like she barely wants me around.
I keep wondering if I did something wrong or if I was just convenient for her until she found someone she liked more.
Maybe I’m taking it too personally, but coming from abroad and suddenly having to build an entire social life from scratch in a hostel has already been difficult. I really thought some of these friendships were genuine.
Has anyone else experienced this? How do you deal with feeling like you’re constantly replaceable in friendships?
Plus everyone in my hostel already made their own people