My girlfriend of 7 months admitted she catfished me right before we were supposed to meet. I don’t know what to do.
I’ve been talking to a girl for about 7 months. We texted almost every day and usually talked on the phone for at least an hour a day. She sent voice messages regularly, we talked about our families, our future, marriage, kids, and I genuinely fell in love with her.
She never asked me for money, gifts, or anything financial. That’s one reason I never thought it was a scam.
We were finally planning to meet after her exams. Right before the meeting, she sent me a long confession.
She admitted that:
Her name isn’t the one she gave me.
The photos she used weren’t hers.
She’s not studying what she claimed.
Much of the life she described wasn’t real.
She says she originally created the fake account for another reason, but eventually developed real feelings for me. She says she wanted to tell me many times but kept getting scared because she thought I’d leave her. She apologized, said she knows what she did was wrong, and asked me to meet the real her and give her one chance to rebuild my trust.
Some additional context:
We spoke for 7 months.
She sent voice messages and phone calls.
She never asked for money.
She’s now willing to meet me in person and says she’ll introduce me to her family if I want.
The problem is that I feel completely betrayed. It feels like the person I fell in love with never actually existed.
Part of me wants answers because I cared about her so much. Another part of me wonders if the trust is broken beyond repair.
Has anyone been through something similar? Did you meet the person anyway? If you did, do you regret it or was it worth getting closure?